Advice please.

Hello mummies, I have a bad trait of parenting and I would like to change it. I would like to seek advice. Thank you. I used to live in a bad environment. One abusive parent and another one use me as a sandbag verbally. They tend to verbally abuse me whenever they fret up. I realised that I did that a few times. I try my best not to be like them. But it's so difficult. I feel so guilty for doing the same for my children. I want to stop it once and for all. I don't want to release my stress and upsetness to my children. I'm a housewife. People around me tell me that my world revolves around my children and I have no hobbies or interests, that's why I couldn't de-stress. But my hobby is cooking. I love to find ways to cook my dishes better and find a new recipes to cook. I think I cannot handle stress and my emotions well. Is there any link I can read up on to better help me with managing these? So that I would vent out to my children. Thank you.

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No parent has the perfect parenting style. We will all make mistakes. But Im of the belief that if its based on true love for our child, then it somehow works out in the end. Your self awareness and effort to change though are very commendable. Finding things that relaxes you or makes you happy helps in managing stress and emotions. Cooking is one of those ways. Light exercises like walking especially in the park helps. A good bath and massage too. It has to be something you like. Meditation is also good. When you can, find a quiet place to just be still. Or listen to positive energy music. Here is a YouTube vid of one of my favorites- https://youtu.be/xXDC5xGy8wo. Hope this helps. Dont be too hard on yourself. You are already a step ahead to being better. Take care

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