Hi all moms, need some advice on toddler and new sibling issue. I just gave birth to a baby girl and is still 10 days, doing confinement now. While in the hospital, my 2yo had been kissing and hugging and wants to carry the new sibling but after i returned home, until now, he's been quite violent towards the baby. I do not know whether is his stubborness or whether if he understands what we say when we told him we love him and meimei. The things he did were, he tried to poke meimei's eyes, he hit her head and pull her hair and tried to push her while the sister is lying on our lap. My mom suffered a number of hit in order to protect the sister. We did use the tactic of saying meimei bought this for u, meimei wants mommy to let you have this cake, but still as usual. Before I gave birth, i will always be there to bring him to and from school but now under confinement, i cant really 'go out' so if i were to bring my son to sch as usual, it's not a very big deal right? And also, breastfeeding the sister but my son still latching until i gave birth. Now got milk le, he drinks from my boob and rejects formula. I also told him 1 side is meimei and 1 side is korkor, but sometimes he insists to drink from the other side, hence, my NB got his flu and cough. I have been rejecting him and scolding him more than usual but if he doesn't try to hit the sister, i wouldn't scold him also. Can advise how to deal with this so called jealousy towards new sibling? TIA.

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I would say put yourself in a child's shoes. Imagine you have all the attention for 2 years and then suddenly the attention is turned towards your little sister. It is a major and sudden change to your son with the new addition at home. This is how your son is feeling. He is only 2 yrs old and he may not understand what you are trying to explain and does not know how to express himself well. It is also not advisable to scold him as he may feel that "mummy doesn't love me anymore." This is where your husband needs to play a part and spend more time with him since you will be busier with the little one. When time permits, your husband should bring your son out (just the two of them) and let them spend time together, so that he doesn't feel left out. It will take months before he start accepting the new family member.

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