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How to balance taking care of a child with husband? As many of us SAHMs has been juggling with house chores, baby, and so many other things. 90% of the communications with hubby turned into household matters as well telling him what to do to help out at home and the baby. The rest of the 10% seems to be just casual chat over dinner which usually will not last more than 30 mins as need to handle our baby already.
How to ensure hubby do not feel neglected and not tired ourselves out while prioritising our mental health along the way?
Thanks for asking! It is so challenging to juggle the multiple roles we play: wife, lover, mother, friend, daughter, worker etc. I suggest taking some time to do a temperature check individually and as a couple how you are feeling - physically, mentally and emotionally. Have a honest chat about the relationship health. From there, brainstorm and take steps to reclaim your relationship. This includes writing down the things/ topics to discuss and make decisions of periodically rather than as and when it comes up. Having scheduled discussions can be more productive and less mentally draining than as-and-when. Raising a child involves teamwork and in fact a whole village. Blocking time to discuss what needs addressing, blocking out time to be as a couple (date nights) and time for yourself (me-time, girl-time etc) are all important. Blocking time out doesn't mean it will definitely happen - however if we don't plan and fight for those pockets of time, they are even less likely to happen.
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