Ask the Expert: Maintaining long-term romance in marriages

Different people relax in different ways - introverts vs extroverts. Introverts need a lot of alone time and they might not get this when it's their kids, mess at home they're returning to. I suggest asking yourself what makes you relaxed? Music, walk, water etc. The little things does add up. Simmering is a term in my work where we invoke erotic moments for ourselves so that our sexual desire builds up through the day (or week) rather than expecting things to happen immediately (too fast). Ask for the romancing you need from your partner could help as well.