Ask the Expert: Maintaining long-term romance in marriages

I already answered this in previous answers. However the short answer is you really do need to let them know how this affects you. I know so many husband who said "I help her" when this is both your child! What happens is the husband tends to NOT have as much emotional investment in the child as the mother because they didn't carry the baby for nine months! Yet because of the nature of some women, they also don't let the husband feel involved from the start. So the emotional distance can make it difficult for the husband to have the confidence or willingness to take care of the children. In short, they might not have the confidence even if they wanted to. Build him up. Request. Assign, Encourage. Rinse and repeat until he is a more involved. I hope this helps.