Ask the Expert: Maintaining long-term romance in marriages

Yes it is possible. However most of us being humans get lazy and don't focus on the relationship after children - we focus on the children. It is important to recognise the romance won't happen by itself. Most couples who come to see me come when they "dried up" and only have a stomach of resentment. Don't let your relationship get them. Do regular temperature check (how are we doing as a couple?); block out time for each other (date nites); guard those times (don't always talk about the kids), and create new memorable fun experiences as a couple.