Ask the Expert: Maintaining long-term romance in marriages

I am not sure what you mean by baby-sit by them? Are you saying that your husband is being pampered by his parents that he doesn't have to do anything. Yes this can be challenging because we are creatures of habit. If he has had a comfortable life being taken care and not doing anything for himself, then without any reason, he might not see the need to change things. You can bring up your concerns as a topic of discussion with him in anticipation of your baby so he is mentally prepared. Going for baby classes can help with the mindset so that he is more prepared to be involved with baby comes. Some people are very pragmatic i.e. only address issues as they come up, while it sounds like you're anticipating what has not happened yet. Speak to him about your concerns. Get your parent in laws on your side. You might appreciate their involvement when baby comes because it does take a village to raise a baby. Focus on the positives - in-laws ready to help rather than negative - husband being