I've always thought I am able to handle 2 children when my 2nd child arrived 2 months ago. Things is not not gg well especially I feel I have been very harsh with my 5 yrs old boy recently. While I am trying very hard to bond with my LO , the elder one will start to speak very loud at home and will go disturb the baby when he is asleep soundly. Recently, teacher told me the elder one hit someone at childcare and when I ask him nicely , he is totally not willing to talk about it. He does not have this kind of record in school before. When I talk to him , he will just immense himself into his fav TV cartoon and would not answer or pay little attention to my words. Sometimes , he is rude to my mum too. I am starting to worry about his character.... At few times , he pushed me to my limits and I could not tolerate and swear in front of him . I know I shouldn't be and feel ashamed at myself .Things seems to change a lot after the LO arrived . In the past I have read many parenting books in order to be the best mum I could.But I feel like I have failed just been a good mum after all and I feel so angry with him that I told him I don't love him anymore.My husband scolded me for my mean words and I really regretted. At the same time , I really want to give more attention to the little one which he really needs as an infant . I am torn and feel really tired as I also need to spend time with my elder one on his homework as he will be approaching K2 very soon. I need need some wise advices. Thanks

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1st- balance 2nd- jealous 3rd- attention 1st- balance. You have to balance both your child as know the 2nd child is just 2 months old you have to put a lot of effort on him/her. This will let your elder feel no balance. 2nd- jealous. As you put a lot of effort on your 2nd child, your elder will feel jealous as what ever you will go to your 2nd child first. Example: once 2nd child cry you will faster go for him. Toy, you will get a lot of new toy for him/her that all his/her thing are all new. 3rd- attention. Your elder child feel that you are giving less attention than before, so he/she started to do or say something that will make others to get his attention. You have to slowly let your elder child know: Example: didi or meimei still baby, You have to help mummy to look after didi/meimei as because you are korkor/jiejie already. Let him/her to know that he/her need to love didi/meimei. Hope this help you and sorry that my English no good.

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Home Just Mums ive always thought i able handle 2 children when 2nd child arrived 2 months ago things not not gg especially i feel i have been very harsh with 5 yrs old boy recently while i trying very hard bond with lo elder start speak very loud home go disturb baby when asleep soundly recently teacher told elder hit someone childcare when i ask him nicely totally not willing talk about does not have kind record in school before when i talk him immense himself