I've always seen so much positive and sweet reactions/responses from husbands when their wives announce their pregnancy or even say, "I think I am pregnant (again)." My husband's reaction is always negative. He always ends up stress and angry with no mood. The first time we got pregnant was before we even tie the knot and he got very unhappy. He was very short tempered and he faced a problem at work. He got verbal and almost threw a chair to his boss. He was then suspended and eventually dismissed. We eventually had an abortion as both of us felt that we were not ready. A year on, we got pregnant again and he told his parents who then told us to tie the knot officially. After we gave birth to firstborn, he kept saying that he wanted another child to try for another gender as everyone keeps telling him that maybe next one is the other gender. But everytime I get pregnant, he ends up in hyper stress mode and he keep having second thoughts n unhappy about it. His response is always so negative.. never has it been a positive reaction. And i always regret telling him. Especially when it is not confirmed or just a fals alarm.. like "I think I am pregnant again." I just thought I tell him so he can be prepared but seems it is the wrong move. Makes me feel sad all the time. Like we are a burden and unwanted. Please tell me that I am not alone and that this negative reaction is normal.

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I can understand how you feel. From what you described, his long term negativity thoughts and anger management could cause conflict in the long run. Not sure if all along he is like this but I would suggest to protect yourself from being pregnant. When you got pregnant for the second time, did he really want to get married, or it was purely his parents who suggested it and went along? For trying second child, apparently it seems like he wants it just because someone says it will be a different gender, it don't seems practical to me from the way why he wants another child. Do not forget there is always 50% chance of boy or girl, he/she is still your kids. If the second child gender same as first, what is he going to do? Get stressed up and angry again? I don't think he is ready for parenthood, and he wants child for wrong reasons. When I got pregnant for the second time accidentally, I was very stressed up. My chest was very tight whenever I start thinking of how to juggle a newborn and a school going kid, and husband seems stressed because of sales target, and his mum is unwell at the same time. Eventually we choose to terminate. It was a hard decision but I believe we are being responsible for our current family by being happier and less stressed up...

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