Is it true that I could spoil my baby by picking him up every time he cries? It just gets frustrating when he keeps crying.

You're probably doing more good than harm by picking your child up, or even carrying him away from "toxic situations". The older generations might say things like "you're spoiling him" or "always like that next time confirm ...", but know that your child wouldn't cry if nothing's wrong. Like what most mummies said, the only way that the little ones can communicate with us is through crying and babbling (before actually talking). So if you ignore his cries or babbles, or tell him to "shut up" (my parents say this so using as example), it gives the impression that 1) you do not care about his discomfort/feelings and 2) he cannot be open to you. In fact, if you ignore cries or let babies sooth themselves too early (yes, they can do it but there are many different ways and stages to do it - not from newborn stage), they will have the impression that they cannot rely on you - and this goes into their childhood and even adulthood.

I practice attachment parenting. Babies are used to constantly being close to their Mummies when they were in their wombs. They are not used to the feeling of being detached from their Mummies and that can cause a fair bit of insecurity, which cause them to cry as that's their only form of communication. For a baby to stop crying, their basic needs (ie. food, diaper, sleep, security) have to be met first. You're not spoiling your baby by carrying, for they are not manipulative at this age, they're only asking for some comfort from their closest one - You. Hang on there Mummy, it's not easy initially but it'll definitely get better. :)

It won't spoil him, but yes, he would over the period of time know that this trick can get him in your arms. Since, they are new to the world, they find the most comfort being close to you, being in your arms, and this is the place they are most familiar to, as you feed the kid. So, whenever you lift the baby, he feels secure. Like when we sleep and keep tossing till the time, we get the perfect posture and pillow seeing and all, same is with the baby. He cries till the time, he gets the best seeing for sleeping.

Sakin nope. Hindi naman siguro siya iiyak kung di niya kailangang ma-comfort. Hindi pa naman nila alam "magmanipulate", kumbaga e, humihingi ng tulong sayo yung baby kasi meron sa kanyang masakit o may nararamdaman siya, hindi niya pa naman kayang i-control ang emotions niya at i-comfort ang sarili niya. Darating ang panahon, mamimiss mo ang moment na yan, mabilis lang lilipas yan, kaya habang sinasabi niyang kailangan ka niya, be there. Habaan mo ang pasensya mo, kaya mo yan Ü

According to Dr. Frans X. Plooij 'one of the reasons a baby cries is to seek comfort'. He posits in his book 'The Wonder Weeks' that the world is new to a baby and that this new world may frighten them; this natural instinct causes them to seek comfort in your arms. You can learn more about his work on infant development here on ParentTown TV (http://parenttown.com/sg/group/infant-development-frans-plooij)

No dear, you are not spoiling him infact this kind of attachment parenting is necessary for of the baby . Babies always cry when something is wrong, they are not able to self regulate their emotions like adults. Outside world is really confusing for them and they need the smell, touch of their caregivers to calm them down. So please take full care of your baby because he needs you the most right now.

Babies just need care and attention and it makes them feel very calm and secure when they are being carried. I still carry my 2.5year old every time he cries. I just carry him for a few seconds or maybe a minute, divert his attention to something and then leave him back down to play. He seems very fine then.

Babies lack the ability to be manipulative. At least, they can't until they reach about 6 months old. They cry when their basic needs are not fulfilled and being held is one of their needs. http://sg.theasianparent.com/help-my-baby-wants-to-be-held-all-the-time/

Baby's only way to communicate before talking is crying. He might be having discomfort/feel hungry/need to change diaper/want to sleep. Here is a guide to decode baby's cries: http://www.whattoexpect.com/first-year/week-10/decoding-cries.aspx

Here's an interesting (and simple!) way of soothing a fussing baby: http://parenting.sfglobe.com/2016/01/16/pediatrician-shows-parents-how-to-calm-screaming-infant-in-mere-seconds/?src=sfg&t=fbsfg&cp=panO Worth a try! ;)