im really tired juggling both work and taking care of bb myself. & nope, no mummy or mil help here. long story. and i keep seeing all these articles of benefits to a child of working mum bla bla bla. it's like telling me my child lose out if i quit my job to take care of bb. arent there benefits for child if the mum stays home? so what if i sacrifice my career? im not sure how i can try to be happy in the long run by trying to hang on to juggling work and baby. stay home mums, please tell me... there are benefits to our child if we stay home to take care of bb right?

My aunt was a career woman for the longest time and she left her babies in the care of my grandma. After grandma passed away, she had to choice but to resign because her in laws were still working and at that time, child care and nannies were not the norm yet. She has been a SAHM for about 20 years now (and added 2 more kids to her previous brood of 2 in that time). While she did raise 4 beautiful and amazing kids, she admits that she missed her old life and financial freedom. On the flipside, she was always around whenever her kids needed her. She made it to every single school play, recital, sports day, she was there at every parent teacher meeting. She saw all of her children's milestones and dealt firsthand with their rebellions. All of that, she was grateful for. On the other hand, I grew up as a latch-key kid, in a household where both parents worked and had to content with not having my parents at special school events etc. That did not mean they loved me and my brothers any less. In fact, we always looked at it as a different kind of love. We grew up independent and resourceful, in fact :) There are pros and cons to everything but if you feel in your heart of hearts that it will be the best option to stay at home, then by all means, go for it.