Is anyone here a stay at home mum?

I've been considering taking no-pay leave to take care of my baby (8.5 months old) because going to work just makes me so miserable. For context, my job allows me to take no-pay leave until my child is 4 years old. Is anyone here at SAHM? Can anyone share your honest experiences with me so that I can mentally prepare myself? Thank you and I think SAHM mums are wonderful (my mum is a SAHM ☺️).

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The pros is that you get to experience every single milestones of your baby. You get to sleep when baby sleeps (in the eyes of others, you get to sleep all you want). The cons… People around you might think you have nothing to do at home, just shake leg take care of baby very easy, overtime your husband might even have the same thinking because he is the one bringing bread home. You might get looked down on the moment you depleted all your personal savings and starts asking money for household stuffs. You don’t get the rights to complain that you’re tired. And they will blame you that it’s your choice to be a SAHM. Same thing while you get to experience all your baby’s milestones, you get to experience all their meltdowns, their worse sides which no one will understand because baby doesn’t do that to them. And it will get worse when you have no help at all and everything falls on you. SAHM have no off days, no break times, because you’re the one at home, if baby is sick or even yourself, you’re expected to be the one taking care because the husband is tired from work. Above is my rant as a SAHM of 3 years.

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I worked for around 14 years and left my job after my daughter was born. It has been 2.5 yrs and I have been enjoying each moment. Sometimes you feel too exhausted, want to be left alone. But as soon as u see those tiny twinkling eyes and cute smile you forget everything 🙂 I personally never wanted anybody else taking care of my kid. They learn everything from you, every action every habit. I have witnessed all milestones first giggle, first crawl, first walk which i wouldn’t have if I had continued working. Eventually its a personal choice. And If you have husband’s support then it will be a lot easier.

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