I'm not in a very good terms with my mom since young age (6yo onwards?) things get slightly better when I grew up (17yo onwards) n start t support myself financially and I think she realise the mistakes she made and hope for a better relationship. She's a very dedicated mom do all housework, cook for everyone, even lend me a few thousands to Pay my ($30k) Uni fees while I need t juggle my wedding n New Bto expenses. Now that I'm preggy, n I quit my job. Only my hub (not earning a lot) is supporting me. We decided not to hire any Confinement lady and ask my mom for help. She's willing to help. She's definitely experienced and know how to cook confinement food. However she stays in the west and I'm staying in north west. I know it's only right to allow her to sleep over thruout the confinement period rather than making her travel Everyday. 1) I'm worried we would clash again if she stay over. We have different views on confinement rules and the way t take care of babies. 2) my hub is not really comfortable having someone else in e house overnight. If you were me, what will u do?

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Hi, I think, do not assume things. When we have pre-conceived notions about something then we in a way lock our thought process and leave no room for change and new things. It has been so many years, and you never know your mom has changed, and you never know that after the baby, and the physical condition you will be in, that is physically drained, you would yourself be a changed person. I think, you can try this arrangement for a couple of weeks, and if all goes well, you can continue with your mother being around, else you would be doing fine by that time to do little tid-bits, and your husband too can lend a helping hand, and you both can pull through. Then you can tell your mother that you will manage.

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Home Random Talk im not in very good terms with mom since young age 6yo onwards things get slightly better when i grew 17yo onwards n start t support myself financially i think realise mistakes made hope better relationship very dedicated mom housework cook everyone lend few thousands pay 30k uni fees while i need t juggle wedding n new bto expenses now that im preggy n i quit job only hub not earning lot supporting decided not hire confinement lady ask mom