I'm not in a very good terms with my mom since young age (6yo onwards?) things get slightly better when I grew up (17yo onwards) n start t support myself financially and I think she realise the mistakes she made and hope for a better relationship. She's a very dedicated mom do all housework, cook for everyone, even lend me a few thousands to Pay my ($30k) Uni fees while I need t juggle my wedding n New Bto expenses. Now that I'm preggy, n I quit my job. Only my hub (not earning a lot) is supporting me. We decided not to hire any Confinement lady and ask my mom for help. She's willing to help. She's definitely experienced and know how to cook confinement food. However she stays in the west and I'm staying in north west. I know it's only right to allow her to sleep over thruout the confinement period rather than making her travel Everyday. 1) I'm worried we would clash again if she stay over. We have different views on confinement rules and the way t take care of babies. 2) my hub is not really comfortable having someone else in e house overnight. If you were me, what will u do?

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Hi, I sense the tension and dilemma. On one hand, u wanted help and save cost but on the other, u are afraid of unexpected events. Honestly, if I am u, if my hub is hands on, I will get him to apply 2 weeks leave to help. Mother can teach him how to cook, clothes can be put in the washing machine. U have to be a little hardworking to care for baby at night and this means compromising your rest. This seems to be a better solution than having your mother over and afraid of clash and hub not comfortable. Alternatively, order confinement food (hub can also eat) and hub can rest. Otherwise, mother only comes in day time and goes back in evening but tiring for elderly.

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9y ago

Yea, it will be tiring. She has t change 3 buses to reach my place! My hub is taking 1 month's leave and he's Unteachable. I jus need him to learn how to change diaper n shower LO etc. He ever soak my toaster in the sink to wash it. Lol. He's ok, if my mom stay over he jus worried I'll clash w my mom too n make me have PPD or make the whole confinement n relationship worse.