Closure

Question

Im currently 20 weeks pregnant, di kami kasal ng BF ko and unexpected ang pag bubuntis ko. Nag resigned ako sa work ko as Cabin Crew sa middle east bec of this. Now, ung Bf ko may balak pa makipag meet sa Ex nya (5yrs) para daw sa closure etc. But, the problem is never to naopen sakin ni BF about sa desisyon nyang pakikipag kita nahuli ko lang na may convo sila ng friend nya (common friend with Ex). Sobra akong nasakatan sa mga sinabi nya di daw sya siguro sakin kung masaya ba sya or hindi, nanghihinayang sya na hindi sila ang nagkatuluyan, sya din daw ang ideal wife nya. Parang pinaparating nya na pinikot ko pa sya, which is not true!! Sobra akong nasasaktan, ang hirap pag sobra din ung pag mamahal mo sa isang tao pero di pala ako ang pag papasaya saknya. ? Gusto ko lang ng advice kung i ko confront ko ba sya or pabayaan na lang?

xyz · Accepted Answer

Confront Mommy. Im sorry to doubt the closure. Kasi I would define closure, na tapusin na yung relationship that was left hanging, pero sa conversation naman nila parang he opened up his feelings na meron pa syang nararamdaman kay girl. Kung sakaling meron pa din nararamdaman si girl, the mutual feeling would pave way para magkabalikan sila. Unless, the father of your child is mature enough to let go of his past lover para kay baby. There is no easy way to make you feel better. Kasi masakit talaga pag may kahati lalo anjan na si baby, waiting to come out sa happy family. I guess Mommy, give yourself sometime to think. Go to church. Pray very hard. Cry hard hanggang maubos yung pain at ang maiwan sayo is clarity kung ano talaga gusto mo. Kung ano yung kaya mong gawin for baby at sa relationship nyo.Then talk to him. About how much it hurts not only for you, but sa baby na soon lalabas kung sakaling piliin nya si girl at kung mapagdecisyunan mo na iwan nalang sya.All the pain mommy will go away. Pag labas ni baby. Be strong to endure the pain na kino cause sayo ng bf mo, and stronger para kumapit si baby at di madala sa stress. :))