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It's understandable to feel this way, and it's commendable that you want to address the issue. Parenting can be challenging, and it's common to feel overwhelmed at times. Here are some suggestions that might help you manage your anger and improve your relationship with your child: 1. **Identify Triggers:** Try to identify what triggers your anger. Is it when your child has trouble eating, or when you are in a hurry to go somewhere? Once you understand your triggers, you can work on managing them better. 2. **Take a Break:** When you feel yourself getting angry, take a moment to step away and calm down. It's okay to take a breather before addressing the situation. 3. **Communicate:** Talk to your child in a calm and assertive manner. Explain why certain behaviors are not acceptable and encourage positive communication. 4. **Practice Patience:** Remember that children learn at their own pace. Your child is still young, and it's normal for them to take time with certain tasks. 5. **Seek Support:** Consider talking to a therapist or joining a parenting support group. It can be helpful to discuss your feelings with others who may have similar experiences. 6. **Spend Quality Time:** Create special moments with your child to strengthen your bond. This can help you connect with them on a deeper level. Remember, it's okay to make mistakes as a parent. What's important is that you recognize them and make efforts to improve. Your willingness to address this issue is a positive step towards becoming the parent you aspire to be. https://invl.io/cll6she
Can i say something? I get angry at my children too. But think of it this way. How does it feel when no one understands you, and all you needed was alil help and some love, and all you get is being yelled at. From someone you love and whom you thought should always be there for you and protect you. All you need to understand is that this is their learning stage and accept that not all children are the same. Some may need more time, some maybe have learning difficulties that we as parents, have to understand and learn how we can help them. Not to always pressuring them. It can cause trauma to that child that can last forever if we dont mend it asap. My kid just turned 4 too. I will always remind myself that my children didnt asked to be born. I am the one who always prayed to have them and so i it is my responsibility to care, love and protect with my best abilities. Yelling at them constantly can be seen as an abuse. Mentally. And we dont want them to suffer like that. Let her grow at her own pace. 🌻 she will shine if you let her. You can do this mummy!! 💪🏼
I guess: You’re burnt out. The responsibilities of being a mom and an aunt are totally different. Now ure not only getting the fun side, ure also getting the tiresome side of child raising, 24/7. You have high expectations of your child/yourself. Maybe you don’t realise it. You need to learn some tricks/ways of communicating (especially giving instructions)/ children psychology to get them to work with you. I’m a teacher. I just wish to share that children love us no matter how harsh we treat them. Keep that in mind and the next time you’re about to lash out, take a deep breath before you do anything. The pause will help to regulate your emotions. And buffer more time for preparation when possible. Children don’t know/cannot understand the importance of our appointments, so I personally prefer to plan ahead and give myself a breather.
My 4 yo eats slowly most of the time too. That's because he is busy talking to us or singing. Quite frustrating at times, but I try to stare at his face and find everything he does really cute. That calms me down a little. Sometimes he takes quite long to prepare for an outing too. It is quite normal for a kid that age. Just let them know the longer they take the shorter time they will be left to play or compete with them see who faster. My boy doesn't like to lose 😂. I have a 4 month old baby too so I try to chill as much as possible. And I'm that kinda mum that potty trained my boy before he joined the playgroup classes by 18 months. Haha. So try to relax before you start yelling, take a deep breath and look at your precious child's innocent face. Know that she loves you very much 😍
me too :(
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