I suspect my single friend is pregnant... she's looking a little bloated on her face and she has been avoiding sashimi (which is her faveeee!) and complains that her colleague's perfume stinks when she used to say it was one of the nicest scent. I'm not sure how to ask without sounding like a prick. Any suggestions?
- When a mother says she's tired, that's all she meant! She did not say she wants to drop her son and forget that he or she exists. When a mother says she wanted some time alone, just her, that's all she meant! She didn't say she's sorry to be a mother and that motherhood was a mistake in her life. When a mother says she needs help to get things done, that's exactly what she meant! She is not saying that she is incapable. When a mother makes noodles for dinner, it does not mean she does noodles every day of the week and that her son/daughter is a child who does not know vegetables and meats. When you arrive at a mother's house and face disorganization, it doesn't mean that every day that house is disorganized. When a mother says she'd love to go out with her friends, that's all she meant! She doesn't want to go back to being "Single / not a mother" and like it as if she had no responsibility. When a mother says she's worried and afraid, that's what she meant! She didn't say she's going to falter, and much less she's a coward. When you listen to a mother screaming, it doesn't mean she just screams, probably she has spoken 300 times with normal voice tone. When you see a nervous mother, on the edge of madness, doesn't mean every day she's in that situation. There is a whole context, a whole situation. Do not invent untruths to judge someone, let alone a woman who every day, at all times, gives up her own life to live the life of another being that she knows is much more important than her. In the world there is no human being able to give up and donate as much as a mother! And they deserve a lot of understanding and fewer trials. ✍️💖Anonymous
- Asking for a friend: she is looking to train her live-in-helper for when her baby arrives in three months time. I did not have a helper when I had my little one so have no idea of how to help her. Mums do you have useful advice on how to prepare your helper for the baby's arrival.
I would say get familiarised with the daily tasks first. Then slowly introduce baby related activities using a dummy or a doll. After individual task training has been given then can start telling her about routines. But we all know that babies love to throw our routines out of the window. Hahaha.Sumati T Nagrath
- Should you or should you not introduce gadgets to you little one? My 14months old can now identify the youtube app, go in, select her videos, press the play button and adjust the volume when she finds it too soft.. She doesn't ask for it but when I see she's able to do all that at her age I feel a little worried and wonder if I'm introducing it to her too early? On the other hand, she learns a lot of good things from those videos...
For me I would try to delay introducing gadgets as late as possible. My no.1 exposed to youtube videoa at 4 years old and she didn't get addicted. For no.2 since there is sister's influence, occasionally he will ask for nursery rhymes videos. We only use it as emergency solution e.g. in car whining because of long journey. Since i am a sahm, I try to interact and play with them as much as possible and they love it.Wendy Soh