I suspect my mother in law is sabotaging my relationship with my husband. She's very two faced and likes to twist everything I say. But she's very nice in front of me. What should I do?

This is a common mommy son affiliation issue... These kind of moms never let their sons grow up.. The pampering is continuous and that too to a heinous extent. Im sure your mum in law knows that you do not like it when you support your husband for the wrong things. And she deliberately does it.. Well try doing a one on one talk with her on the issue. If she is ready to respect your point of view good, if not-then when she makes you feel like an outsider, there are many things you could resort to like:- a) Outsiders don't do much housework... Show her a subtle form of revolt. Comtribute as less as possible. b) Remind her that you are the better half and what you say matters and will matter. Be stern c) Shower your hubby with more love and affection and try and change him with that... Automatically mom in law's influence will go down.. Hey btw Im suggesting options here . Its finally your pick!! :)