My Teenage Girl

I seems to have issue talking to my girl who id 13 years. She is often rude and ungrateful. How do i deal with this?

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Firstly take comfort in knowing that this is super normal. Most teenagers at 13 are disrespectful, angstsy, angry and a little mean. Teens are going through a very stressful time in their lives: They want to please us, but they also want to break away. Psychologically and physiologically there are also lots of changes. Add to the mix that they want to be accepted by their peers - so you can imagine that It’s overwhelming for them - so they tend to act out. As a parent it’s vital that you are able to start to give them chances to have more control of their lives. It doesn’t have to be major decisions but for example let them choose the menu for dinner, the restaurant or the sports they'll be playing, Also at this stage - it’s important that you talk less, nag less, and listen more. Teenagers especially girls have so much to share with their mums and we often miss the forest for the trees by nagging at them for all the things they do wrong vs what’s really happening in their lives. Also resist the urge of giving advice and just be non judgmental and listen to them. Good luck for this new stage. :)

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6y ago

Thank you. It is a struggle not to be a nag at times. Sometimes a gentle reminder to the girls seems like a nag to them