I really need some advice. Few days before giving birth to my LO, my husband asked me to abort just because he say he does not have money to pay and find it very stressful etc. But now, I've given birth and still on confinement, to be counted as those unlucky ones, I've infections, fever etc. Even after knowing I'm having infections, fever, etc, my husband doesn't even give a damn and even ask me to go work to earn my own medical bill. I really find this marriage hopeless as he also doesn't show any respect to my parents and me. Now that I've given birth, I have a feeling if I were to mention divorce or anything, he gonna be snatching my LO from me. What should I do? He's not a Singaporean, but my LO is. And he intend to bring my LO back to his country and never comes back if I refuse to let my LO to even go back once. Upon hearing this, as a mum, how would I even dare to let my LO go back for just even once? What should I do?

14 Replies
undefined profile icon
Write a reply

Dear mummy, be strong for your child. Nobody needs u more than your child now. You are the world to him/her. Judging from what your husband said about aborting the baby just days before it was born, I feel that he is not the ideal person to look after your child. Do all u can to safeguard ur LO. Before i had my baby, i was a shy n timid person. But after i had my baby, i started being braver, for the sake of my LO. I tell myself if i don't protect him, who in the world is going to? I would just like to share with you what i would do if i were u. - i would not continue to live with a timebomb who may take my LO away from me if the opportunity arise. I cannot imagine losing my LO and never seeing him again. Can you also imagine the stress that i would be under day in and day out. Never a day will i be happy or feel at ease in this unhappy marriage. I can only foresee a breakdown n depression ahead of me in the long term. If that happens, custody definitely goes to husband... - if my husband does not love me anymore, i would end the marriage. I will work to support my LO and be both mother n father to him. Staying in an unhappy marriage may not be beneficial to the child, it can be detrimental if the family is abusive or without ĺove. I will first find a stable job after confinement before divorcing so my chances of getting the child would be higher. YOU deserve so much better! Don't stay in a loveless or abusive marriage. That's what i feel n what i would do.

Read more