I really need some advice. Few days before giving birth to my LO, my husband asked me to abort just because he say he does not have money to pay and find it very stressful etc. But now, I've given birth and still on confinement, to be counted as those unlucky ones, I've infections, fever etc. Even after knowing I'm having infections, fever, etc, my husband doesn't even give a damn and even ask me to go work to earn my own medical bill. I really find this marriage hopeless as he also doesn't show any respect to my parents and me. Now that I've given birth, I have a feeling if I were to mention divorce or anything, he gonna be snatching my LO from me. What should I do? He's not a Singaporean, but my LO is. And he intend to bring my LO back to his country and never comes back if I refuse to let my LO to even go back once. Upon hearing this, as a mum, how would I even dare to let my LO go back for just even once? What should I do?

I'm so sorry that you are in this predicament :( it made me so angry to hear that your husband said that days before you gave birth. That's a horrible thing to say to anyone let alone his own wife. I reckon you should try your very best to not let him travel alone with your child. If he does want to go, insist on waiting till you're well enough to go as well. Talk to your family and friends -- make sure they are aware of this in case anything bad happens (touch wood). Have you applied for baby's passport? If not, then delay it and this will keep baby from traveling and buy you some time. Since he say he has not money to pay for your medical bills, where is he getting the money to pay for plane tickets and pssport for baby? Those are not cheap. Be firm and don't be afraid of him. He sounds like a bully and he is scaring and threatening you while you are in a vulnerable state. I hope everything goes well for you. For now, keep baby in Singapore, you get well soon and when you are stronger, you can confront your husband if he doesn't improve his attitude anytime soon.