Need Advise

I am in a 6 years relationship with 2 years old baby. Nung wala pa kameng baby sobrang toxic and may experiences din ng cheating kaso tanga ako so gora. And to be honest I got addicted to the pain. After namin mag ka baby sobrang daming changes and nag bago siya paunti unti. Pero may times pa din na tinotopak siya. He is still studying kaya ayaw ko makipag hiwalay kase baka ako maging dahilan para di siya maka graduate so I waited till maka grad siya. Graduating na siya kaso nalaman ko na im pregnant. btw I am a working from home mom. Ako lahat ng gastos kahit bisyo niya pero minsan nagbibigay naman family niya.. Naguguluhan po ako kung papanindigan ko nalang ang family namin knowing I dont deserve to be treated the way he sometimes treat me. Hindi naman siya nanakit, yung words niya lang minsan, minumura niya ako pero sa chat lang, maliliit na bagay nagagalit, hindi marunong pumuri at mag appreciate, laging nag iinom, tamad sa bahay pero gwapo 🤣 Bunso po kase ako kaya clingy and sweet ako sa lahat ng fam member ko and sakanya. Kaso medyo nag bago na ako dahil hindi nga siya showy sweet or clingy. Hindi rin po ako marunong magalit. Kaya hindi ko alam kung paano siya awayin. Pag nag aaway kame sa chat lang dahil di lang kame nag papansinan sa personal. Sa totoo lang po hindi siya yung ideal husband ko, dahil gusto ko po yung malambing din hindi lang pag lasing, masipag sa bahay at mahilig din mag isip ng pagkakakitaan. Ako po nag business na pero di natuloy dahil tamad yung delivery boy ko. Hindi ako sinusuportahan kahit alagaan anak para makapag live selling ako. May 2 din akong client sa work ko. Kung pwede lang wag na ako matulog para may pera kame. Part of me want to break free. Pero ayaw ko po na 2 ang anak ko pero hiwalay sa tatay nila. Kaya ko pa po san kung 1 lang.

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Hi Mommy. It's okay if you want to stay in a not so perfect relationship (especially if you are considering your kids not to grow up in a broken family), in the first place "perfect relationship do not exist", from time to time you and your partner will get in an argument because you two are different person with different personalities and opinion. However, staying in a toxic/unhealthy relationship with an excuse of "ayaw kong lumaki na walang tatay ang anak ko, or ayaw ko na 2 anak ako pero hiwalay sa tatay nila" is not right at all. You have to love yourself, respect yourself, and treat yourself right mommy. I'm not saying na hiwalayan mo hubby mo, what i'm trying to point out here is, if you want your kids to grow up well don't let them see how your husband treats you the way you said, you did not deserve, or at least do something about it, or make him treat you better and right. Unless, you want them to think as they grow, that treating a woman the same way their father treated their mother is the right thing to do. Just my "two cents" here mommy. But still, seeking God's guidance and wisdom through prayers will help you get through it. God bless.

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