Depress due to live near parent in law

Hi. I have a problem that I need to hear some advice. I live opposite my parent in law and i just gave birth 2 month ago. I have been feeling depress due to my parent in law live nearby which is only few step reach our house. During confinement, they keep saying i look sick and need to eat more herb and wine. (I'm not an alcohol person). I hate it they keep saying so eventhough the fact is I'm not feeling sick at all and they keep forcing me drinking alcohol. And i cant eat any fruit during confinement too. Everything is wind to my mom in law. I thought after confinement will be better. But i fell to another depress. I feel like i never really bond with my baby. They keep coming looking at my baby and carry him during his woken hours. (I feel like i myself have no time with my baby as he always sleep during my time taking care my baby) i felt like currently Im sharing my baby with my husband family and im regretting leave only the opposite from them. Also i dont feel i have privacy now as they keep coming over. I know i shouldnt have this feeling, but i couldnt control it and felt depress now. Could anyone give advice please. It's killing me as I start to regret giving birth without bonding with my baby properly.#advicepls #pleasehelp #firstbaby #1stimemom

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Hi Mummy, so sorry you feel this way. It's really hard having to deal with your postpartum's uncontrollable emotions, which really happens to most women after giving birth. And this situation added to your many worries. I suggest that you communicate this problem with your husband, so when you both understood the situation, you can talk together to your parents-in-law about setting boundaries in your childcare. You can be firm and limit their visits to thrice a week, despite them living nearby. They need to understand that even tho they are near, you should be able to figure things out on your own with little help from them. I think the best way to deal with this situation is be honest with them but in a nice, communicative way. Hope this turns out well and you will be able to bond with your baby more as the first months are very crucial for your little one's development.

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