I have a 21mths old toddler and a 6mths old baby. My Husband works 5.5days a week and he attends private school on Sundays. He is always tired. He dozes off almost every night after dinner in front of the TV. He sleeps through the night even when baby cries loudly in the middle of the night. He has little time for both kids. And whenever I told him that he should spend some time with the kids his reply is most of the time 'I'm tired'/ 'you are not working, wait till u go back to work, u will know how tired it is to work'. My reply to him is 'don't you have any Father instinct that you come back home and play with your kids for awhile?'/ 'Don't you have Father instinct to wake up to your baby's cries?' We have not have sex since I got pregnant with number 2... he is afraid to have a 3rd child. He says stop at 2. I told him we can still have sex and take precaution. But he say he needs time... Am I very harsh to him?

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It is inevitable that you will be frustrated and be harsh at time. It is very human being to be like this as we are tired moms too who needs to be doted and loved at the same time. I can see your husband is very tired out too but it isn't vey nice of him to say you don't work so you don't know how tough. A Sahm work is just as tiring and in face never ending whereas the men get to sleep on their off days. You should tell him firmly he needs to be more sensitive and allocate a fixed a lot for family bonding and help out in simple tasks like fold the clothes in front of the tv? I think both parties need to make en effort. It is never easy for parents in the first few years. If he makes some effort let's try to appreciate them and if sometimes we are too harsh we need to tell our husband after that what we act like this and that we still love them. Good luck!

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Home Random Talk i have 21mths old toddler 6mths old baby husband works 55days week attends private school sundays always tired dozes off almost every night after dinner in front tv sleeps night when baby cries loudly in middle night has little time both kids whenever i told him that should spend some time with kids reply most time im tired not working wait till go back work know how tired work reply him dont have father instinct that come back home