I have a 21mths old toddler and a 6mths old baby. My Husband works 5.5days a week and he attends private school on Sundays. He is always tired. He dozes off almost every night after dinner in front of the TV. He sleeps through the night even when baby cries loudly in the middle of the night. He has little time for both kids. And whenever I told him that he should spend some time with the kids his reply is most of the time 'I'm tired'/ 'you are not working, wait till u go back to work, u will know how tired it is to work'. My reply to him is 'don't you have any Father instinct that you come back home and play with your kids for awhile?'/ 'Don't you have Father instinct to wake up to your baby's cries?' We have not have sex since I got pregnant with number 2... he is afraid to have a 3rd child. He says stop at 2. I told him we can still have sex and take precaution. But he say he needs time... Am I very harsh to him?

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I don’t think you’re being harsh, I mean, father participation is definitely important. Could it be that the new environment makes it a little tough to get used to and to be intimate? Maybe you can get a family member to babysit the kids for a weekend while you and hubby take a short getaway, to rekindle and get back in the mood. ;) You can use the relaxed atmosphere to have a discussion on whether there is anything bothering him that you can help with. Tell him how you feel and offer suggestions on how he can spend more time with the kids? Like plan fun family playtime/ activities together at an indoor playground or set aside dates (outings) with other families etc

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