I hate my confinement nanny - I hate the fact that she gets to keep baby while I have to sit in my room and rest. I hate the fact that she thinks she has rights over everything baby. Is this normal?

This is perfectly normal, so don't get so worked up over it. It's natural to feel like someone is crossing into your space... but remember, that's why she is there - to help you recuperate and look after your baby. Also remember she is a temporary inclusion in your family. I know how frustrating it can be for you, but at least you know that your baby is truly happy with your nanny and that when you are gone he/she is in good hands. Don't see your nanny as a rival, but as an extention of you.