I feel guilty

I gave birth to my LO last january. He's our first and had actually a long wait before he was given to us. As first time parents, we always think of giving the best for him, all he needs and all the must haves. We love our son so much. But soon as we have him, most of his things were given to us, most were hand-me- downs. So we were quite hesitant of buying new ones coz it quite felt like a waste of the blessings. Like the crib, carseat,high chairs were passed down from my niece, but luckily are black and red coloured, most of his clothes were given by my friend who literally like given almost all her baby's clothes. I mean like we have the means, we also bought clothes and things for him. It's just that I sometimes get this feeling that we are not providing him the best that we promised to him and ourselves. Whenever i share this with my husband, he just say dont worry much, we can still give him the best when grows up. Before i got pregnant, i used to say the first borns are very lucky, they get all the new and best ones. I am a second child so i have this guilty feeling..that maybe that has something to do with me not giving the best for my first born. God, I know this sounds petty. I hope this is just some post partum thoughts that i need to throw away.. #1stimemom #advicepls

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My first was also given many pass down clothing and some items. One of my gf pass down her daughter clothes alot till few yr old to me. I feel happy actually, as there friend passing down clothes to my daughter. To me I felt my girl was bless that there are friends of mine pass things and even they purchase things for her. Is like these are real friends. Even some of the things passing down to me was not very new like bouncy walker. The toys on top had already missing alot. But I’m still happy about it. As there “friend” passing down thing to me. I appreciate what friends given. Think positive and think happy stuffs. 😊

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