Gender Reveal

I FEEL SO BAD. Pls hear me out. I'm currently pregnant & soon to be a first time mom. My child is gonna be the 1st apo & 1st great grandchild on my side. I really want to have an INTIMATE gender reveal - like gusto ko sana kami lng ng partner ko & we'll share a video surprise with my family after. The problem is: My elder sis wants an intimate gender reveal na kasama sila mama & papa. Dont get me wrong, I LOVE THEM SO MUCH & I know how excited they are for my baby soon. But ako kase gusto ko simple & private moment lng na gender reveal with my husband. Idk but even before I got married, I wanted everything to be very simple & unique. Ngayon lng naman nauso yung gender reveal party tlaga. Huhu ayoko ko kase yung may maraming balloons, cupcakes, etc. Simple & intimate lng talaga gusto ko. I TOLD MY SISTER I'M OK WITH HER PLAN. :) This was months ago na sinabi ko she can be the planner so I ended up not telling her what I rlly wanted kase I dont want to hurt her feelings. Just today, we talked about it again. And na express ko unintentionally na MY 1ST PLAN WAS to have a gender reveal with my husband only. I wanted us to go back to the place where he proposed to me. I even expressed na gender reveal usually depends on the couple tlaga. But then I told her it would be difficult without a planner. I made things worse ba? I FEEL BAD for sharing my initial plan kase I think she was disappointed na yun pala yung plan ko tlaga. I dont know if valid lng ba na gusto ko yung 1st plan ko or am i insensitive for wanting that? :/ Bakit pa kse nauso yang gender reveal parties eh T.T

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I don't think you're selfish for wanting a simple and intimate gender reveal, to each their own. I think ang mali sa ginawa mo ay hindi mo agad yun sinabi sa sister mo at um-ok ka pa nung umpisa. I think your sister really cares about you and just as you said OK because you didn't want to hurt her feelings, she may now be feeling bad rin if narealize nya na napipilitan ka lng din sa plans nya. I think it would be better to just be honest with them on what you want, and the sooner the better. If they really love you and care for you, they'd understand and respect your decision.

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Anonymous

10mo ago

🥹 huhu thank you po for this honest & kind reply.

mag stick ka sa kung ano gusto mo at napag kasunduan nyo mag asawa/partner. nakakastress lang pag masyado mo iniisip sasabhin ng relatives or kung sino man. ang mali mo lng dapat sinabi mo agad na ung intimate gender reveal na gusto mo is para sa inyo pang mag asawa kaya nag expect ung sister mo na okay sayo. Sister mo naman un be open. Wag magpaka stress sa ganyan po. Yan ang natutunan ko nung mabuntis ako.

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valid nmn yung reason mo yun lng kasi mali mo mhie di mo inexplain ng maayos sa sister mo yung way na gender reveal mo kaya akala nya cguro na it's ok na invite parents ninyo kaya wag din po sana kayo magalit sa sister ninyo kasi di din nmn ninyo pinaintindi sa kanya gusto ninyo mali nyo din po

valid naman un nararamdaman mo. same, di din kami nag gender reveal or anything. mas konti nakaka-alam mas konti makiki-alam ika nga nila. enjoy nyo muna ni husband mo un moment as 1st time parents na kayo unang makaka-alam. pwede naman after, if your sister still insist for the gender reveal.

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please don't feel bad momsh! And please unahin mo magpapasaya sayo kasi its your journey. Pwede mo nalang ishare yung news/gender after ng moment niyo ni hubby. IKAW MASUSUNOD. Ofcourse happy sila sainyo kasi first apo, pero ikaw ang masusunod.

i understand your sister..and also your feelings and disisyon..peo sana nagsabi kana kaagad sa sister mo ng plan mo kasi akala nila excited ka din sa mga gagawin nila yun pala napilitan ka lang mas masakit malaman yung ganun kasi.

kayo po ang parents, kaya it's your decision kung ano po gusto nyo. Sabihin nyo na lang po ng maayos sa sister mo kung ano tlagang plano nyo, maintindihan nya yun kung talagang mahal kayo💖

hala bakit pala desisyon sis mo sa buhay mo haha yung matters na yan ay dapat decided between the couple lang. set boundaries with your sister.

Anonymous

10mo ago

huhu opposite kase tlga kami eh. she's a party planner, more outgoing & like the life of the party while ako homebody na di hilig yang mga ganyang bagay.

it's okay mommy to have an intimate gender reveal. Hoping your sister and other fam members will understand you.

Its okay mommy. Its your moment and your husband. Your sister will understand.🥰

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Home Pregnancy i feel bad pls hear out im currently pregnant soon first time mom