I hold an unconventional mindset in a conventional society which says women are to 'tone down' post marriage... I was/still am the girl who enjoys being the life of the party.. I still Im the live wire which catches everyone's attention but only invites criticism from my husband and the comment 'tone down'. What is tone down and why should I? He still is the same boring guy I fell in love with, then why do I need to behave like a nun??

Well... in that case, you could bring him into the party and let him loosen up if he is open to the idea. This shows that both of you have different personalities; he seems to be an introvert whereas you are an extrovert. By calling him "boring", you're actually putting a label on him which I wouldn't advise as it doesn't make him feel good. Both of you find joy in different activities which is totally fine. I suppose him wanting you to "tone down" means to be more laid back instead of being IN THE MOMENT ALL THE TIME. Of course, we're not your husband, so do ask him exactly what he meant. For all you know, he might just be feeling neglected and need some loving from you.