Single mother - help

I am 24 this year and I don't know what to do. I have yet to tell my family about this - and I am sure they will be disappointed. I left my home and have been staying with my aunt who loved me a lot since I was a kid and it hurts me to know that she will feel like she is a failure and I have disappointed her big time. I was actually told to abort or give birth and my boyfriend will leave me. He told me marrying me and having the child is a no choice for him. Because of the instability of our relationship and not being sure of our finances. Due to me not being able to take leaves just for abortion (and also me not wanting to). I have told him to leave (because he wanted to either way if I decided to keep it) and he just did it without looking back. Not to mention he talked to multiple adults with family/is married, they gave him the idea and supported the idea of leaving me should I want to keep the baby. I have been so depressed, I don't know what to do and I am worried about my unborn child. I am afraid after I give birth, I wouldn't be able to love him/her. This is my first pregnancy. Please advice..

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I applaud you for your braveness to tell your bf to leave since he chose to leave you with or w/o the pregnancy. Not every females dares to do it because to them, bf comes first. Your bf is just a useless sperm donor. If he can do this to you, no doubt he'll do this again to other ladies out there. Donate his sperm & leave the rs. Do not abort the baby my dear. I know of 2 person who fell into depression (cried every single day) after her abortion and another one having difficulties to conceive after marriage. The baby is innocent. It's ½ of you. You made the baby. But if you think financial is the issue, my advice is to put your baby up for adoption. Atleast this gives hope to every childless couple out there who's waiting to call a child their own. Or if you plan to keep the baby, ask around for financial help. Remember. There are many single mums out there who have survived this difficult ordeal of being a single mum. I've been a single mum myself. Marrying the father was a HUGE mistake. Our marriage only lasted for less than a year. After that, he didn't even acknowledge my child. Till today, my child has not called his biological father a father but instead call my now husband - Papa. Although everyone's journey is different, but if they can & I can, you can too! Speak to your aunt. It is normal to feel dissapointed but with you telling her the truth, I am very sure she will go all out to help you since she loves you a lot. You need to speak up. You need someone to hear you. And that's your aunt. Ask for her advice but don't abort. All the best to you!

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