My husband recently moved to China for work for 2 years and 2 weeks into his relocation, he cheated on me. I found out about the affair 2 months later and he was apologetic and confirmed he has ended it. However, he refused to move back to SG as he really likes his job and value the career opportunities. He is though willing to come back every alternate weekend to spend time with the family. Apart from feeling betrayed, I also feel that he doesn't prioritize the family since he chose to stay in China and not come back to work things out with me. Should I cont' to stay in this marriage? Am I wrong to hope/expect him to come back completely in order to save the marriage? *long story which is hard to explain here but I can't move to China... or at least I can't move this current moment...

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Cheating in a marriage is morally wrong! But if you wish to stay on. Lets look into a paradigm shift! 1. Every family needs to be financed, hence one party have to work. 2. Your husband works overseas, most likely is difficult for him to come back and given that he made the effort to fly back every alternate weekend shows some commitment on his end. Maybe is time to look into why you can't move and see what is your priority. If it is child education, I am sure you can find an equally good school there for your kids with the amount of money he is earning. Forgotten to add, you have to file for divorce within 6 months of the discovery of adultery or they will assume you have lived with it. Usually the court will order cost of application to the defendant if found to be true.

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9y ago

Thank you. So from a guy's POV, if after giving him the option of "stay in China and split up" or "come back to SG to work out the marriage" and he said "I don't want to split but if it makes u feel better, we will split cos I am staying in China" means there's nothing much left for me to hold on to him/marriage?

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Home Random Talk husband recently moved china work 2 years 2 weeks into relocation cheated i found out about affair 2 months later was apologetic confirmed has ended however refused move back sg really likes job value career opportunities though willing come back every alternate weekend spend time with family apart from feeling betrayed i feel that doesnt prioritize family since chose stay in china not come back work things out with should i cont stay in marriage