My husband recently moved to China for work for 2 years and 2 weeks into his relocation, he cheated on me. I found out about the affair 2 months later and he was apologetic and confirmed he has ended it. However, he refused to move back to SG as he really likes his job and value the career opportunities. He is though willing to come back every alternate weekend to spend time with the family. Apart from feeling betrayed, I also feel that he doesn't prioritize the family since he chose to stay in China and not come back to work things out with me. Should I cont' to stay in this marriage? Am I wrong to hope/expect him to come back completely in order to save the marriage? *long story which is hard to explain here but I can't move to China... or at least I can't move this current moment...

Hi, i'm very sorry to hear what had happened to you and i truly feel for you as i'm somehow relates myself to your scenario. Me too,is a victim of infidelity. The third party was from china too. and my husband also cheated on me while he was there at work. But i believed you are better than me as you found out about the affair much earlier than i do. i trusted him wholeheartedly and therefore it took me more than a year to find out.(he was already relocated back to sg for 4mths-5mths when i found out). Based on my experienced,i find that if he really values you and the family,he should move back. i dont think you are wrong in expecting him to come bk. cause its the only way that he can ensure a clear break frm the affair.what assurrance can he give you when he's still there? the trust is already broken. wouldn't you live in fear and insecurity that he would betray you again?wouldnt your thoughts run wild if he remains there? i'm sorry.i'm not trying to rub salt on your wound or further sabotage your marriage. cause this is really what i'm going through. Though my hub is back here, there's not a single day where i live by without these flashbacks and i can honestly tell you,though its almost a yr since we reconcile,but my trust for him is still very minimal. i lives in insecurity. i personally think that its best for your hub to come back and salvage the marriage while you still can. Prolong dragging and staying there,do more harm to the marriage.