My husband recently moved to China for work for 2 years and 2 weeks into his relocation, he cheated on me. I found out about the affair 2 months later and he was apologetic and confirmed he has ended it. However, he refused to move back to SG as he really likes his job and value the career opportunities. He is though willing to come back every alternate weekend to spend time with the family. Apart from feeling betrayed, I also feel that he doesn't prioritize the family since he chose to stay in China and not come back to work things out with me. Should I cont' to stay in this marriage? Am I wrong to hope/expect him to come back completely in order to save the marriage? *long story which is hard to explain here but I can't move to China... or at least I can't move this current moment...

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Sorry that you have to go through this. But I believe that "once a cheater, always a cheater". If he still doesn't want to leave his job and work things out (even after you found out he cheated) then it only means he prioritizes his career over you and your family. It's as simple as that. And no, you're not wrong in expecting that he'll move back to SG so you can save your marriage. It's well within your rights as a wife. Now, I may not know your entire situation but I think it should be up to him to adjust, not the other way around. If you really want to stay together. After all, he's the one who messed up. Just beware that, in all likelihood, he will stray again in the future.

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Home Random Talk husband recently moved china work 2 years 2 weeks into relocation cheated i found out about affair 2 months later was apologetic confirmed has ended however refused move back sg really likes job value career opportunities though willing come back every alternate weekend spend time with family apart from feeling betrayed i feel that doesnt prioritize family since chose stay in china not come back work things out with should i cont stay in marriage