My husband recently moved to China for work for 2 years and 2 weeks into his relocation, he cheated on me. I found out about the affair 2 months later and he was apologetic and confirmed he has ended it. However, he refused to move back to SG as he really likes his job and value the career opportunities. He is though willing to come back every alternate weekend to spend time with the family. Apart from feeling betrayed, I also feel that he doesn't prioritize the family since he chose to stay in China and not come back to work things out with me. Should I cont' to stay in this marriage? Am I wrong to hope/expect him to come back completely in order to save the marriage? *long story which is hard to explain here but I can't move to China... or at least I can't move this current moment...

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I just read something from Joy Tanchi Mendoza that a husband needs to prioritize his wife (and vice versa) at all times, and I agree with her. It's important for both of you to feel secure in your relationship. If he did that, and he can't move back, how will your relationship work? I personally think that going home every other weekend is kind of exhausting (and waste of money), but it's a good sign of effort. However, if he is not consistent and doesn't make a move to make you feel better and secure, maybe you can consider the option of continuing both your lives separately

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Home Random Talk husband recently moved china work 2 years 2 weeks into relocation cheated i found out about affair 2 months later was apologetic confirmed has ended however refused move back sg really likes job value career opportunities though willing come back every alternate weekend spend time with family apart from feeling betrayed i feel that doesnt prioritize family since chose stay in china not come back work things out with should i cont stay in marriage