Almost same situation here except for the vices. My husband is an ofw and he sends money to both me and my mother in law. Tried to talk to him about it na baka pwedeng wag na muna sya send money kay MIL or if may exepenses sa side nila wag naman lahat sya mag shoulder. Most of the time he won't respond. I know it sounds offensive but I can't just keep my feelings. At least I let him know how uncomfortable I am with that situation. Sobrang hirap especially now na lumalaki na si baby and malapit na mag school and we pay monthly amortizations also. I always encourage him to save but when we talk about these things it's seems that I'm talking to the wall. He always try to avoid the topic. MIL is also very jealous given that my husband is a mama's boy. Also don't know how to deal with this. I've done my part to understand
him, to talk to him...it's him who doesn't cooperate and doesn't know where I'm coming from. With regards to MIL, I don't want her gone like forever, though it's the only solution. I just want her to learn to accept that her son has his own family now and allow him to be a responsible breadwinner to his wife and son. Whew!
Magbasa pa