How old is your elder child? My elder daughter was 2 yrs and 8 months old when I told her I was having a baby (I was 2 months pregnant). I focused a lot on getting her excited to become an elder sister, let her play with her doll to dress it up/put it to sleep/feed it milk etc. I also let her count down the months with me and touch my tummy/feel the kicks. When we had picked the name, I told my daughter the name, and she would talk to the baby in my tummy/sing to the baby. The very important thing is to reassure your older child that you still love him/her very much and that will never change. I gave her lots of hugs, sometimes even carried her when she had meltdowns or needed comfort. We prepared a birthday card for the baby together, as well as a matching bunny toy that my elder daughter has. Oh, I also bought my elder daughter Elsa and Anna figurines to represent the 2 sisters, which made her very happy. No matter how much you prepare, though, the elder child might still feel neglected when you have to take care of the younger one. My elder daughter has had meltdowns and expressed loneliness, but one thing I noticed: she never took out her frustration on her sibling. She had grown to adore the younger one so much that even when she was whining/crying for me, she would later ask if her younger sister was okay. Hope you’ll have a smooth pregnancy and lots of wonderful conversations with your elder child in preparation for your little one:)
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