MIL

I understand how you are feeling. When u are handling baby and she wants to take over. Let her know nicely that u can handle it. I think that one wayto stop her from taking baby over. Having baby slp in her room , is hard esp if door are closed and since is your mil and not your own mum,it is hard to go in and take baby back. So i would tell my hub that i want to soend time with baby and get him to bring babyout. Or sometime when mil bring baby to her room to feed,i will tell her that after baby had finish eating she can bring baby back to baby room or out to living room. Try to set clear boundary and grt ur hubby to convey it to his mum. Like no closing of doors if baby is in her room. Although sometime after awole the old folks probably wont care or rmb. Since mil is staying with u and u gonna need her help , do see what is it that u want to delegate to her. Like giving her feed baby once or twice a day and not totally cut her off. Like tt she get her share of interaction with her grandchild and maintain good relation btw u and her so that she can continue ti helpu. Honestly baby slpping in her room im not too comfortable with thatidea esp with close door. If baby cosleep on her bed, i would just let my hub know is dangerous cos we wouldnt know what is the slpping pattern of mil (like keep turning ) if fil is there too all the higher the risk of infant death when cosleep. So that at least hub is on your side and knows the reason why u dont eant baby slo in their room. Cos hub sometime maynot find anything wrong with all this. Try set some routine. Like after 8pm u can bring baby to your room and settle him to slp. Close your room door. Mymil help baby bath since confinement. Sometime she is like 手脚快我一步，while we now do the bathing tgt, she will just carrybaby to bathtub even when im there and involved. Try to tell her first that i will bathe baby. So that u will ne the one to carry and bathe the baby. And she can help out with like wesring of clothes, etc getting ready towel to carry baby from toilet to room for dressing up I know is hard but jiayou. I am having this issue as well. Just manage the relationship tackfully so that when u need her help she is there.