How do we figure out the boundaries that we’d like to set with our in-laws?

Have a cuppa coffee, sit down with a piece of paper and pen and write down what your boundaries are. Coffee boosts your concentration so you can figure out what boundaries you want to set more easily. Some questions you might like to ask yourself: - How often do you want to visit them/them to visit you? - Do you want to give them free access to your home by giving them the keys? - Are they allowed to discipline your children?