Negative responses when revealing gender

Totally understand how you feel. My in-laws wanted a boy and explicitly telling me boy is better. Doesn’t help that my husband also wanted a boy. I’m the only one that wanted a girl. And I knew they will be disappointed if it’s a girl hence we didn’t do any gender reveal party. It also didn’t help that the gynae told us it was likely a boy at week 13 but became a girl at week 16.. Also didn’t help that my husband is the only child (I feel the pressure of giving them a grandson to carry on family line) and that he is a very nice son towards them hence my in-laws won’t feel girl is better than a boy. My mil tried to “console” me by saying girl is better for the first one because sister can take care of younger brother better (meaning she still want and expect a grandson next). My own mother also said nevermind 2022 try for a boy. My husband said he will still want to have a son in the future. When we knew baby is a girl, I spent a few days being so upset and crying about it because I feel I let my in-laws and husband down, and then being guilty towards my baby for being sad she’s a girl. But I kept telling myself most importantly she is healthy and I really have no control over gender, soon I got over it. My in-laws and husband have accepted the fact it’s a girl and my in-laws are still nice to me so I guess I don’t get it that bad as others in the comment. I am now a few days away from my EDD and will be seeing her soon :) I hope you feel better and have a safe pregnancy!