Negative responses when revealing gender

Honestly quite disappointed by some elders' immediate responses when we told them we are expecting a girl (first child). So my question is: Anyone faced similar comments? Pls share! **Most replies here are advocating 'just ignore', 'don't be bothered'. 😂 Haha, but my question is NOT 'Should I ignore them?' Of course I smiled and ignored them out of courtesy! But still bothered, and wondering if any mummy is in the same boat, to feel less alone and less frustrated in this pretty uncommon situation! And yes of cos hub & I will love our girl all the same.** Instead of congratulatory words, these were their responses. FIL went "Oh, 不要紧 la (never mind)." Uh, what is there even to mind in the very first place? He's never talked about the pregnancy since then, no small talk, no concern. Nothing. SIL went, "Oh, what did Father say about you having a girl?" the very moment we told her we are having a girl. I guess we all knew FIL would rather have a grandson for his first grandchild. Aunt went, "Oh...next one can have a boy." Wow. As if we didn't do a good job this time but oh we can try to excel next time. Huh(?!)

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Me too! I purposely asked for a gender reveal party within our immediate family and not to my surprise that both my mother and MIL wanted a boy (first grandchild for my MIL). Tbh I don’t even need to see their expressions because the moment when they guess I’m having a boy, I can expect how disappointed they are. Which is why I hv been feeling emotional when I get to know I’m expecting a girl which Idk how to even tell hubby that I know both mothers would expecting a grandson.. But idc anymore, I told myself my girl is definitely my most sweetest sweetheart and she’s my baby.. Not for theirs (yes I know is their granddaughter).. 😊 #Girlspower 💪🏻

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5y ago

Nope, nothing from my MIL about tonics at all till today.. My mum did before she knows I’m preg w girl.. Fact of life, I can only depend on myself and hubby now..