Negative responses when revealing gender

Honestly quite disappointed by some elders' immediate responses when we told them we are expecting a girl (first child). So my question is: Anyone faced similar comments? Pls share! **Most replies here are advocating 'just ignore', 'don't be bothered'. 😂 Haha, but my question is NOT 'Should I ignore them?' Of course I smiled and ignored them out of courtesy! But still bothered, and wondering if any mummy is in the same boat, to feel less alone and less frustrated in this pretty uncommon situation! And yes of cos hub & I will love our girl all the same.** Instead of congratulatory words, these were their responses. FIL went "Oh, 不要紧 la (never mind)." Uh, what is there even to mind in the very first place? He's never talked about the pregnancy since then, no small talk, no concern. Nothing. SIL went, "Oh, what did Father say about you having a girl?" the very moment we told her we are having a girl. I guess we all knew FIL would rather have a grandson for his first grandchild. Aunt went, "Oh...next one can have a boy." Wow. As if we didn't do a good job this time but oh we can try to excel next time. Huh(?!)

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I faced the same situation same you. I was initially sad with their response too. But after thinking, why should i be affected by them. The baby belong to me and hub, regardless of gender we will love them unconditionally. So don’t bother with their remarks, be happy and enjoy this journey!

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5y ago

Thank you! I don't have friends with the same situation so I feel somewhat better knowing that I'm not the only one. My friends have in-laws and parents who are genuinely happy that they were having girls. Mine on the other hand, sigh 😔 Were your folks totally uncaring towards your pregnancy because baby is not their ideal gender? Cos mine is.