has anybody had an aggressive son? how did you control? do I mellow down my 4 yr old? he gets aggressive quickly and now and then says " i will hit you". i know, i am to be blamed partially cos to stop his aggression i used to slap him. that was to scare him and to stop hitting. he likes kids but does not like them to take initiative for friendship. he opens up very slowly with new people or kids. prefers older kids. i give up. i think i am the only mother with such problem. all other kids his age are not aggressive and their parents make faces.

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Maybe you can warn him of the consequences of hitting people in the real world when he grows older. Tell him that he can get arrested by the police and be in a lot of trouble for being aggressive. Let him know that he needs to learn to control his anger because you can't be around to protect him all the time. Seems harsh but I find this "scare tactic" works well because children need to learn that the authorities might not be as forgiving as a parent would.

Anonymous

9y ago

Thanks and I agree 'scare tactics' are essential sometimes.

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Home Toddler has anybody had aggressive son how did control i mellow down 4 yr old gets aggressive quickly now then says i hit i know i blamed partially cos stop aggression i used slap him that was scare him stop hitting likes kids but does not like them take initiative friendship opens very slowly with new people kidsprefers older kidsi give i think i only mother with such problem other kids age not aggressive their parents make faces