My 4yr old son is sensitive..observant..inquisitive but aggressive. We try to handle his aggressiveness calmly but at times I do loose my cool as I am the one spending most time with him. On his cooling, I explain to him. He agrees ....but mostly its back to square one. I feel he is such cos he has not had kids around and gets jumbled up in excitement and expressing. But maybe I am biased being his mother. What troubles me more....gives me sleepless nights is when prople swuirm and mock us because of him. worst thing is that he catches their body language. just fyi, he enjoys and prefers older kids like 7years onwards and not his own or younger...sadly we do not get often. I think I will go into depression. thanks for reading this patiently.

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To add on, is there any playgroup near your place that you can bring him to? This could increase his chances of interacting with children of different ages. Bringing him to the playground may also increase his exposure to playing around other children. If you are worried that he will become aggressive, stay close to him and watch his interactions. If he appeared to be agitated, bring him aside to let him cool down first. These may help he acquire the proper social interaction skills. Children need to learn, so do be patient and give him some time. Also, give yourself a break and don't be too critical on yourself. Share your worries with your partner and loved ones and see if they have the same observations. Take care!!

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When you say aggressive, to what extent? Has he actually hurt another child? I would recommend signing him up for a sports activity where he can play rough but with control and rules. Sports can instill control and discipline, give him a space to unleash his energy but with boundaries. Perhaps rugby or a form of martial arts? I've heard so many stories of "aggressive" kids doing well in sports and learning to control their energies. As for the other parents, they are just being protective, albeit a bit too much, so just ignore them and focus on your son. Good luck!

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6y ago

By aggressive I mean pushing mostly...pinching...hitting on face. Yes thats why I have enrolled him in an International school here so that the many sports activities will tire him and simultaneously give direction to his extra energy level. And yes Thank