My girl (5mo) seems to prefer her dad more now, always looking at him and smiling when both of us are around. She only looks at me dearly and smiles at me when im alone with her. I perfectly gets it coz daddy feeds her alot and plays with her quite a fair bit. Im glad she has the love from so many people and i really love the bond daddy has with his daughter. But what sucks is when the inlaw commented that the reason why she always look at him is becoz he is the “最亲" or "closest" person. It hurts. Esp to a first time mum who gave her all to her baby, her nutrients and full time effort at exclusive pumping and there are so much anxieties. I hope people can be more sensitive to us mothers. We dont need recognition or credit or the love back from our kid. Just no passing remarks pls.

As a new parent myself, the responsibility of parenthood is to nurture our LO. Guidance from elderly is appreciated and passing remarks are of no value in the nurturing process. I am sharing with you how we manage. My in law and my parent are always pointing out to us the challenges and process in the nurturing of our LO from their experiences. My wife and myself accepted openly and adjusted accordingly, and we do raised our thoughts to them as well. When my in law is visiting, they commented the skilfulness of my parent in taking care of our LO and told my wife to learn from my parent. On the other hand, my parent kept advising me to support and give my utmost care and concern to my wife as it's physically and emotionally straining on her pregnancy. Effort from new parent bridging their elderlies from two families offer better understanding, and we are always focusing in the joy of our newborn.