My girl (5mo) seems to prefer her dad more now, always looking at him and smiling when both of us are around. She only looks at me dearly and smiles at me when im alone with her. I perfectly gets it coz daddy feeds her alot and plays with her quite a fair bit. Im glad she has the love from so many people and i really love the bond daddy has with his daughter. But what sucks is when the inlaw commented that the reason why she always look at him is becoz he is the “最亲" or "closest" person. It hurts. Esp to a first time mum who gave her all to her baby, her nutrients and full time effort at exclusive pumping and there are so much anxieties. I hope people can be more sensitive to us mothers. We dont need recognition or credit or the love back from our kid. Just no passing remarks pls.

I get that always. My PILs will praise all the good points about my children follow by that's because they got it from their daddy and finger point all the bad habits to me. But who care? As long as I know my girls are doing well, healthy and I myself know I love them from the moon and back without any term and conditions that's enough. I personally feel the children has radar and know who truly love them the most. To me, I feel happy to know my girls love their Father too, the same man I love with all my heart. Sometimes old people said somethings to get their way when they feel left out; just smile and walk away. I got all kind of names by them too, like murder, heartless Mommy, selfish Mommy etc. I used to care so much that it affect my marriage until I learn to let go. Just sharing my experience. :-)