Any of your hubby asking alot from a stay at home wife?

First I must confessed my spouse is a traditional, super MCP man & loves face a lot, should have extinct in this era. He really expected me as a stay home as wife to cook regularly, iron all his working clothes, maintain house clean & clutter-free, must send & fetch child to & from school daily and still must treat him very nice at home. He doesn’t take care of our child since birth until now. And even when baby & I are out with a lot of heavy groceries & manoveuring a stroller, for several times he would also told me to go home by taking mrt ourselves instead of driving to pick us up. I told him clearly I am deadbeat & depleted all my energy after waking up many times in the night pacifying back to sleep now and then but he doesn’t bother to understand me. Everyday he worked until after 12am then come home. I don’t know what does he treat me as? In this era, he’s still lives in such times expecting a married woman to be like his late mum so capable & independent? For example: 1) Never even babywear like many other dads did since birth until toddler at all. 2) Almost rarely pat or coax our child before sleep. 3) Never once ever wake up in the night to coax child back to sleep. He slept like a dead pig until morning wake go work very late. 4) Never ever wash toilet bowls. 5) Often roar like crazy & throw bad tempers at me & child. 6) Hit me with his elbows very forcefully until my arms blue black when he was the one asking me to wake him up in the morning no matter what happens. 7) Slammed doors very hard when angry. Hit fist on the wall to vent his anger on us. Something is wrong with him but nobody knows as everyone outside thought he’s a super nice hubby and family man. I have no one to talk to as he stopped me from telling anyone, including his family members & relatives. What should I do?

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I can feel you when I read every single words here. Dont blame yourself that this is not the marriage we ever dreamt about. I am sorry dear to ask, but is there anything that you have done before that he creates this anger and resentment? If there is, I supposed you can try to open talk with him, even if its not your fault. A man who was brought up, even with single parent, he should know the feeling of loneliness. Thus he will appreciate you and feels very comfortable talking about anything with you and only you. Guess it doesnt knock sense into him that couple should share household chores/taking care of child. It no more I or U. Its we a team. I do hope that he will change for good. Or he might lose you. Dont be afraid to reach out to public ok dear.

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4y ago

He said he doesn’t me love anymore and don’t care about losing me, all he cares right now is only our child and he’s going to fight for the custody of her if divorce is really to take place. My hubby is a very typical MCP man who expects a wife to cook, do all household chores, cares for kid, fetch & send kids to & fro school, and maintain a clutter-free house. He doesn’t think it’s a man’s duty to help wife so much household chores especially when the wife is a full-time stay at home mum. Because his late mum was such a typical lady and he expected his wife (me) to be exactly the same. I just can’t imagine why such man still exists in this modern era when he appears to everyone he’s a modern man with modern mindset, only me & his siblings will know him he’s a deep down traditional man.