Parents coming over uninvited

Hi everyone. I am in a difficult situation. We gave set of keys to both our parents in case anything of emergency. With that, my father comes over almost everyday uninvited. I am okay with it but my spouse on the other hand thinks its rude and disrespectful. He wanted to tell my dad off but i stopped him as you know parents get sensitive as they age. My spouse has repeatedly say he is going to tell him off but i do not want to ruin the already perfect relationship we have now as family/in laws. I know i am wrong for stopping my spouse as this is his house too. But my dad only wanted to see his grandchildren. Just thats its abit too excessive😔 What should i do?

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What if it’s your in laws ? Definitely it wont be ok. same goes to own parents if its husb pov. Set boundaries, even with own parents. We all hate uninvited guests, even if its own family. And the more you keep quiet the more things will happen. Then youll question why your husband pissed off. Itll even affect your marriage. My in laws do this and i hated it so so much i ask my husb talk to them. Save and priorities your marriage too sis.

I think you will feel uncomfortable if your in laws were to do the same too. Personally I would feel upset as I need my privacy in my own house. Try to talk to your dad to work things out. Maybe you can ask him to inform you that he is coming instead of just coming into the house without informing.

Anonymous

3d ago

Yeah, you have your point. I will try to see how i can put that across to my dad without offending him. Thanks!

Have ur spouse to tell u which are the days he is comfortable with ur father coming to visit, maybe 3 / 4 days a week? And then u and ur spouse relay this to ur father

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