Every individual is so different, so is their sex drive after kids. Especially women who generally have emotions rule their sexual experience. Is there really a fail-proof way to have a genuine desire to hit the sack?

in my experience, the only fool-proof way to genuinely want to have sex is to rekindle the romance. it is very difficult for our bodies to react the same way after so many hormonal changes. but i would say try to reignite the spark. go out on dates, create that atmosphere in the house, give him your undivided attention when you can and demand the same from him too, dress up for yourself and for him, and do a lot of cuddle and hug and cozy things, that are not necessarily sexual, but are intimate nonetheless.

No fool proof way like there is no fool proof way to make sure u will agree to a salesman pitch. Rekindle the romance is a good idea. Best if she is given the chance to relax and kids are away or u two have some couple time. However, do not do it w a hidden agenda. Enjoy the 2-persons-world. Also if u want to have sec or feel that sex needs to be increase because there is practically none then u also need to talk about it too. Slow n steady wins the race ya

There is no fail-proof way plus it is very subjective. I feel that thinking how far you have come as a couple and as a family and the love for each other, will rekindle the romance and feelings :)