Distant & lost...

Does anyone feel disconnected with your husband after your LO is here? I feel very disconnected with my husband. I thought he would be a hands on dad after our LO is here especially when we only conceived after IVF. Unfortunately, he feels that since both me and my helper are taking great care of her there’s no need for him to do so. He only plays with her for short periods of time since our LO will naturally only choose me or my helper when we are around. I have a stressful full time job and need to manage the household and take care of all LO needs eg: what she needs at each stage, clothes, shoes, diapers, weaning items, food etc etc. I cant help but feel that having a husband is redundant and why did I get married? I didn’t get married to take care of another grown child. He is so lazy that he sleeps till past noon even on weekends and does not even buy lunch for us. Most of the time I’m the one doing it. On my helper’s off day he doesn’t bother to wake up early to help, only when I call him then He wakes. When he prepared milk and food and even that he is lost and must as how to do so. He doesn’t even know what pillow LO uses. I’ve asked him to take up a driving license to get a car since I got pregnant now that my LO is already 16mths old his license is still nowhere in sight! I just feel his laziness & heck care attitude totally disgusts me. And if I can do everything myself why do I need a redundant leech who contributes nothing? I can’t help feeling this way and I feel that I’ve nothing much in common with him anymore. What do I do? The last time we spoke about this he feels that there’s nothing wrong with his attitude so I’m done talking to him. Feel sick and tired.

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TapFluencer

me and my hub used to be lovely couple we get distant after baby is here but luckily we communicate and get it solves quickly. men are just men they won't know what to do sometimes our expectation plays a part too. we expect too much like those ideally hands on dad. many of the times they don't want to help because they are worried they will get it worst. try talking to you hub and sort it out. ask yourself if your hub really good for nothing at all? there's nothing he is helping or contributing?

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