Do u feel stressed out or tend to blame yourself when your kids attach themselves too much to your domestic helper? I work shifts and time spent with them over the week is limited. But i feel sad seeing them closer to her. Please tell me what I can do about this situation.

I feel the same way :( My friends and I call it "mommy guilt". If there's no way to change your work schedule, then just make the time you have with her count. Really bond with her, and don't just be in the same room with her, you know? Sing to her, play with her, and maybe take over some of the helper's tasks like giving her a bath or feeding her.